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What to do when your biological clock starts ticking?

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I saw an article the other day (and typically I can't find it now to link to it) but it was about the feeling of knowing when you have finally given birth for the last time. But how do you know?

I never heard the ticking of the biological clock and was never the "maternal" type, always prefering to shop for spike heeled boots than cute little booties but then I was pregnant and suddenly this changed me. My pregnancy was a breeze, I loved being pregnant, I loved seeing my body change and feeling proud of it. I felt great. No, I felt amazing, I felt like I could take on the world.

The birth of my eldest daughter was in hospital and fairly midwife led .... it was the first time I had done it so was happy to let them take control but afterwards, I felt stronger than ever (if you put aside the fact that I wobbled out of bed because my legs didn't want to work). I wanted to do it again.

I missed the flutters of movement.

I missed not having to hold my stomach in for a few months. (!!)

I missed the excitement of the unknown.

I missed the anticipation.

I missed the determination to look after myself more for my unborn child.

For a number of reasons, it took me a long time to feel like that again and so it started.

Tick tock, tick tock, tick tock ........

My second pregnancy was big and beautiful and suffering with SPD, made it a little more uncomfortable than the first but the excitement was still there, the anticipation, the determination and this was fuelled by a more informed birth choice and my own confidence.

Almost as soon as I had given birth, friends and family were asking when we were having another, I think my biological clock must tick loud enough for everyone else to hear it.

Tick tock, tick tock, tick tock ........

Biological clock

Now in my thirties, I have conceded that I am not going to be a life changing scientist, a specilalist vet, a high profile ballerina or any of those other aspirations I had as a child but I am good at being pregnant and giving birth. So maybe that has always been my vocation in life, I just didn't realise it.

So with two perfect daughters and a body that is considered "old" in terms of pregnancy and birth, does that mean I will never do it again. I always remember someone saying to me that if you waited till you could afford children, you would never have them but what about ensuring that you can afford the things you need for the children you already have?

The choices we make now, will affect them too. I need to be a mother but I need to be a good Mom to my girls.

I don't feel like it is the end of my journey though.

Tick tock, tick tock, tick tock .......

Maybe I just need to take the batteries out??

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  1. my clock never started ticking in the first place. i hadn't planned to have children but i do have a child which i am forever grateful for x

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  2. I hated both my pregnancies but loved giving birth even though they were so different, I will wait until daughter is older to let me become a grandma though, I don't feel that clock ticking by in the slightest ;) x

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  3. I am in exactly the same position:) I have two lovely boys but my clock certainly hasn't stopped ticking. I am in my late thirties now ( Arggh) and at 37 I feel that time really is of the essence! I had SPD with my second as well plus I also had Cholestasis which is a concern if I do it again. Should I let that put me off? Probably but I just don't feel done yet. I look forward to hearing good news from you soon!

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  4. It is interesting because my friend from A-level is just having her first baby (and mine is turning 18!). i would have still had more but had to decide that 4 really was enough. I don't think our age is old though in terms of babies at all - especially when you hear of people 66 having them.

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  5. You've freaked me out a little. I'm going to be 40 next month and OH doesn't think we're done yet!

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  6. Its so tempting isn't it I'm 42 and I still think maybe one more....I dont think my body is up to ot though!

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  7. This was a really interesting read. I'm 28 and always thought I'd have three children, but am currently getting divorced. I'm pondering now whether or not I could seriously date a man who doesn't want any more kids, because I really really do. Could I give up the dream of one more? If you let me know how to take my batteries out I might just do that ;) x

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  8. I had mine at 41 and 45 so you're not as old as you think, but I do wish I'd had them when I was younger. There is never a perfect time and I don't think there is a wrong time. I think that having them close together is ideal but you do need proper support for that! Good luck. Looking forward to the next little ones and please don't ignore that ticking sound - it's there for a reason XXX

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  9. Completely with you! I loved being pregnant and still the sensation. I watch other pregnant women stroking their belly and feel huge pangs of jealousy - but sadly my clock has ticked and the alarm has sounded - no more babies for me - but maybe one day I'll be a Grandma and that will satisfy the baby urge in my head!

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